It has been nearly two years since I started writing A Paper Proposal, and in that time, I've had the pleasure of working with many awesome brides. Everytime that I feature a wedding, I almost always reach out to the bride to get additional information about her wedding - the vendors she used, DIY projects, her favorite memory from the day, and lastly, I always ask the bride if she has any advice to share with readers. Over the years, I've collected a lot of great little tidbits from these smart ladies, but I don't always get to share their advice when I write about their weddings. For that reason, I thought it was about time that I went through all of the advice that I've received from brides, and pick out my favorites to share with you guys. I know that Picks on Paper is usually limited to five picks, but I cheated this time and included six! Narrowing it down was so hard!
In case you're interested in checking out these brides' weddings, I've also linked to their original blog features just below their advice! And if you happen to be a bride "veteran" and have a piece of advice you'd like to share, please use the "Comments" section below in order to do so!
"Have fun. I stressed out all day...going and setting up decorations myself! I should have enjoyed the day more. I didn't eat all day and was STARVING. I ended up with a quick headache because I was so dehydrated, but my maid of honor took care of that really quickly. Just relax the day of and soak up every moment. It's what your husband is doing!"
Talia and Dustin, October 2, 2012
"Brides always say that the day is over in an instant, and it is so true. The emotions you feel are so overwhelming and the excitement of wanting to talk to every guest can take over. My advice is to make time for the two of you to breathe and take it all in. I was adamant about Timmy not seeing me before the doors opened for the ceremony, but looking back, I wish we had a private meeting before the ceremony to have a few stolen moments for just the two of us. I would also say to always take your guests' experience into consideration. All of the little details you plan for the big day...Lastly, if you have the option, get a live band. Our goal was to have everybody dancing, and the band helped accomplish that goal."
Kate and Tim, July 19, 2012
"Since we only had 4 months to plan the wedding, we spent time on what was most important to us. We chose to focus on finding the perfect venue, have great food, and cultivate an atmosphere and mood that reflected our personalities. This is also why I didn't purchase a wedding dress until a month before! We were able to overlook other small details due to limited time, and this allowed us to also focus energy on our upcoming marriage. Wedding planning together will prepare you for marriage in some ways, but we also went to pre-marital counseling, which was helpful. Lastly, involve your friends and family in the planning. Our family and friends were an amazing help, and we couldn't have pulled off the day without them!"
Tiffany and Jon, July 3, 2012
- "Some things may take longer than others. Order your invitations as soon as you have the details set.
- "Don't do any of this alone. It can be overwhelming. In my case, my mom was so so helpful in the planning process, keeping us on time and on budget."
- "Work with your entire family - old and new - in planning your wedding. Make sure you call the shots, but don't miss this opportunity to make new memories together."
- "Having your dress tailored to really fit you is worth every penny!"
- Once the wedding starts ignore anything that is not perfect and just have fun!"
Sydney and Christopher, March 6, 2012
"Don't sweat the small stuff. Your wedding is no reflection on how your marriage is going to be; you are not doomed if it rains, if you get roses instead or orchids, or if you tear your veil. It's not important. You get to marry the love of your life, and the wedding is a day to celebrate that with your closest friends and family. That's all it should be...a celebration."
"The best advice I got was to pick three things that are important to you on that day and to not stress about the other stuff. I wanted a great dinner, my closest family and an outdoor, rustic setting. The rest just fell into place. Oh, and one last bit of advice... accept help when offered! You don't have to be superwoman and plan it all and do it all yourself. People like to help and want to help, so let them."
Joe and Haylee, June 28, 2011
"If you don't want your wedding cake smashed in your face, talk to your groom ahead of time! I never in a million years thought Ryan would smash the cake in my face, but he caved under all the pressure. I had cake up my nose and in my eyelashes! In the end, it was okay and I was able to laugh it off, but I was totally caught off guard in the moment. However, I must say, the crowd loved it!"
Jess and Ryan, July 26, 2012